Taking risks, emphasizing strength, evaluating yourself and using self-talk are all ways to learn to have confidence. These strategies help overpower negative assumptions and thought patterns that decrease self-confidence.
Take risks to prove that you can accomplish new things. Reaching outside of your comfort zone helps you gain new experiences, develop personal growth and increase confidence. Approach situations as opportunities to gain knowledge instead of potential failures. Even if you do not fully succeed, emphasize your strengths by acknowledging your accomplishments and focusing on what you did correctly. Avoid ruminating on failures.
Evaluate yourself independently from others, since the high expectations of other people are often the cause of low self-confidence. Refrain from relying on the approval of others. Instead, evaluate your actions and accomplishments on your own terms, focusing on how you feel about them. This allows you to break away from constantly worrying about what other people may think.
Finally, self-talk can help stop the cycle of self-defeating thought patterns and assumptions that damage self-confidence. Counter negative thoughts with more rational evaluations. Remember that perfection is impossible, and avoid becoming upset when you do not reach it. Substituting harmful thoughts with healthier, reasonable ones allows you to accept your limitations while not wallowing in them.