The short answer is: No, you do not tip the funeral director. Their fees are included in the overall funeral costs. After all, they receive a salary from the funeral home and don’t rely on tips. If your funeral director did a good job, you can send a thank you note or rate them favorably online. You can also refer your friends to your funeral ...
The one group of people you do not need to worry about tipping are the funeral director and funeral home providers. Their fees are included in the overall funeral costs, and it is not expected that you will tip them or offer anything more beyond a thank you card once the services are concluded.
Gratuity for funeral home staff. Customary tip: None; fee is sufficient. To show your appreciation: A thank-you note, a small gift (for an individual), a platter of goodies (for the office to share) Funeral home staff, like the funeral director, are paid out of the bill you will receive from the funeral home and do not typically receive a gratuity.
I'm a funeral director who has received tips, sometimes $20, sometimes several hundred. Never expected but I'm not too proud to turn it down. When clients have asked me what an appropriate amount to tip is, I just say “It's completely up to you an...
I think the etiquette is to give the funeral director a tip "for the staff" and "for the gravedigger" if there has been a burial. Generally people have it ready in an envelope and just give it to the director who shares it out appropriately.
Tipping at funerals is a normal custom. It is not necessary to tip the funeral director or any of the staff at the funeral home, but tipping is customary for many of the other service providers. Musicians or singers performing at the funeral should be tipped $50 to $75 each.
Having a good 'send off' for a loved one is important, because it is often the final thing any of us can do for them, so if the funeral director helped give you good memories of this sad, but important, occasion, there is nothing wrong with offering your thanks as a tip.
In many cases, most of these tips are included in the final bill. To be sure, ask for an itemized breakdown of the charges so you can offer tips if they don't appear in your final bill. Good etiquette says that you don't tip a funeral director. His services are paid as a salary by the funeral home.
You tip no one at a funeral. The funeral cost more than pays for the director and staff associated. If you are having funeral services in a church a donation to the church would be appreciated but not necessary.
In my experience, many years ago, of being a teenage acolyte in a big city Episcopal cathedral and attending many funerals—pallbearers are usually friends of the person who died. They perform this service to honor the memory of a friend. I have pe...