To write a sympathy note, you should express your sincere condolences and acknowledge the person's loss. Mention any specific memories of the deceased that you cherish.
- Choose a simple sympathy card or a blank card
Your personal words and thoughts matter more to the bereaved than an elegantly worded poem. Purchase sympathy cards and blank cards in the greeting card section of pharmacies, grocery stores or greeting card stores. Choose something with enough room inside to express your thoughts.
- Express your condolences
"I'm so sorry for your loss" or "You have my sincere sympathy at this difficult time" are both appropriate messages to begin with. Don't use unnatural or flowery language; speak from your heart.
- Include a personal memory or anecdote
Tell the bereaved about the difference the deceased made in your life. Share a memory about the deceased or express the loss you feel.
- Avoid clichés
"He's in a better place" or "She's better off now" are statements that belittle the loss the bereaved feel and don't offer any real comfort.
- Close with a sincere expression of support
Tell the bereaved parties you are thinking of them, or offer to meet them soon.