Messages to include in sympathy notes are statements like, "I am so sorry for your loss" and "Wishing you peace as we remember your father. He will be greatly missed." Statements must be comforting, sensitive, and offer hope and help to the grieving person.
When offering condolences, briefly and warmly express your connection with the deceased. However, if you did not know the deceased very well, extend kind wishes and prayers to the surviving friends and family members of the loved one. For example, an appropriate message for the passing of a co-worker is, "It was a pleasure to work with your mother for 13 years. Her kindness and generosity will be missed." When addressing the passing of a close friend's parent whom you were unfamiliar with, write, "I am sharing in your sadness as you remember your mother. My thoughts are with you and your family."
It is a great comfort to grieving family members to know the legacy their loved ones have left behind. Write a message that shares your personal appreciation for the deceased, such as, "I have such fond memories of baking with Aunt Susan as a child. No one could make a better pumpkin pie and I will always cherish those days."