Some good words of encouragement are those that foster self-respect, confidence and independence for singles. For example, Oprah recommends avoiding romantic partnerships "that won’t let you be yourself," and Carrie Bradshaw from "Sex and the City" reports that the most crucial relationship is "the one you have with yourself." Encouraging words from Eleanor Roosevelt assert that no one can "make you feel inferior without your consent," and Marilyn Monroe simply knows a woman "doesn't need anyone who doesn't need her."
Some good encouraging words might focus on loneliness, loss and partnership problems. When a relationship dissolves, for instance, Dr. Seuss says instead of feeling sadness "because it’s over, smile because it happened.” It's also important to remember that someone doesn't leave if he's really in love. If the departure involved deception or infidelity, ending the relationship is an improvement. No one should stay with a partner who actively deceives.
Other words of encouragement simply celebrate the giddiness of love and the excitement of finding that special someone. Romantic love "turns the dust of everyday life into a golden haze," according to Elinor Glyn. Milan Kundera pictures a solitary couple, "Isolated from the world, that's beautiful." And in "A Walk to Remember," Nicholas Sparks likens love to the wind, because "you can't see it but you can feel it."