Traditional dating in Filipino culture progresses through several distinct phases and is generally more subtle and indirect than in Western culture. The first stage involves friendly teasing, followed by tactful dating, making the relationship public, engagement and then marriage.Continue Reading
Someone interested in dating a "Cebuana," meaning a female from the Visayas region of the Philippines, often expresses an attraction to the woman in a discreet manner. This generally begins with the woman behaving in a demure fashion and friends of both people teasing the couple being paired.
The beginning of a relationship typically starts with the couple and a friend going on a casual date. During this time, there isn't any physical affection. The suitor remains friendly and discreet in order to avoid being considered aloof or arrogant.
While courting, the admirer may serenade the woman and send her love letters through a friend or family member. The couple goes on dates alone, but the Filipino woman avoids outward demonstrations of her interest in the man. Instead, she plays hard to get in order to ascertain the sincerity of her pursuer. This can go on for years before the couple becomes boyfriend and girlfriend.
When the couple decides to become more serious, the man often introduces himself to the woman's family and begins courting both the woman and her family. Every time he visits, tradition dictates that he bring small presents for everyone. If marriage is desired, the bachelor first asks the woman's family for permission to marry her. Quite likely, the woman continues to be reserved even at this stage.Learn more about Health