According to Katherine Lee from About.com, children without discipline lack self control, do not respect authority figures, including parents, have no understanding of appropriate behavior, are selfish, unpleasant, and unhappy, and lack empathy, patience, and the ability to share and make friends. They are also more likely to harm themselves and others through negative behavior.
According to Lee, childhood discipline is about teaching good behavior, setting rules and boundaries to help the child feel secure, correcting in a loving, positive and logical way, showing respect through modeling of speech and explaining correct behaviors, being consistent, which helps the child know what to expect, and cooperation, which allows the parent to show the child that opinions, feelings and thoughts are important. Childhood discipline is less about punishment than it is about guiding children to make positive decisions.
While bad behavior should not be ignored, clear and consistent consequences are tools to correct children without anger. Lee also states that it is important for a parent to keep a cool head and calmly explain why the child is being disciplined and what the child can do to avoid the bad behavior in the future. Discipline is also not about controlling the child but setting guidelines and boundaries in which the child can learn to make choices. Although children will make mistakes, learning that their opinions will be heard and respected gives them self-confidence and helps them learn the difference between wrong and harmful choices and positive, healthy ones.