One quote regarding grieving and loss is found in William Shakespeare's play, "Much Ado About Nothing," in which he writes, "Every one can master a grief but he that has it." In "Henry VI," he writes, "To weep is to make less the depth of grief."
The first of these quotes refers to the human habit of giving counsel to others without really knowing what they are suffering. Well-meaning people give advice to the grieving person regarding what he should do or feel.
The second quote encourages the expression of one's grief as a means of lessening it. Weeping allows the release of some of the deep inner pain caused by loss, while keeping the pain inside makes it worse. The poet William Wordsworth spoke similarly when he stated, "There is no grief like the grief that does not speak."
The Swiss psychiatrist Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, who both studied and wrote extensively about grief, commented, "You will not 'get over' the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same." In this statement, she acknowledges the permanent effect of grief and loss, while at the same time giving hope to those suffering that they will overcome.