Wording in a sand ceremony for a blended family includes a description of what the sand ceremony means and names all members of the family. The officiant tells each person to pour sand individually and then simultaneously to signify joining together as one family.
Vows written by the family typically include a few words about the importance of each individual as the family moves into the future. The couple is allowed to read any vows provided by the officiant beforehand to ensure the wording suits them and their children or to add any special touches to a preformatted script. The officiant usually describes to those gathered that the sand ceremony is a visual representation of the union of the two families. An officiant often has a few preformatted scripts from which to choose, but the bride and groom can usually prepare their own ceremony scripts if they wish.
A sand ceremony is easily adapted to suit any family from the color of the sand each person uses to the sand containers and table or altar where the family meets to pour their sand together. Occasionally, the couple requests that each person in the family say vows to each other. These vows are either simple predetermined vows or promises written by each family member, much like the vows the bride and groom exchange.