The best way to find a "friend with benefits" is by joining adult groups. You can find adult groups on yahoo groups or by joining an adult friend service.. I find that you can always find a good time in an adult group. There are some groups that are for adults that are not sexually based. There are groups for every hobby and type of person that focus on strengths and things to do rather than
. sex or dating. A lot of people meet their significant others in groups that don't involve dating. If you are looking for an adult group try your local newspaper.