The effects and signs of being emotionally unavailable are many. If you are emotionally unavailable you have an invisible wall, a barrier so to speak that is up and supposed to protect you from being hurt by others. Some signs to watch for would be the emotionally unavailable person not being there physically when its important to be there. Putting others down for emotions, sadness, depression,
. fear are things they are unavailable from. If someone shows those emotions they often react negatively. Some but not all are or can become emotionally abusive and/or physically abusive. If your in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable you may find yourself feeling alone often, even if that person is home with you. Often times emotionally unavailable have affairs, cheating to avoid attachment. Looking for ways to fill the void they have created by building walls. You may find yourself looking for ways to "fix" the other person as well. You can not fix, only the person with the problem can. By learning to take down the walls, learning to allow him/herself to feel all emotions and accepting them in others as well. It is not easy to change to learn to handle emotions, but it is do able. Help from a therapist and time. A person also needs to be honest about themselves, with himself to over come. It can be hard to learn to trust and lower walls, especially if they went up due to being hurt. Fear of being hurt again can make it hard and scary but in the end it is worth it. The only way to truly love another, to feel loved by another, to love yourself is by lowering walls and being emotionally available.
