The ministry asserts that its mission is to help men and women "who struggle with unwanted same-sex attractions", believing that "same-sex attractions can be overcome ", and asserting that "there are no conclusive studies supporting any specific biological or genetic cause for homosexuality. It is the opinion of Love Won Out that"The foundation of society for the family is marriage of a man and a woman for life...Scripture is very clear in its condemnation of homosexual conduct, for such sin is a deviation from God's creation and design." Dr. James Dobson adds that God loves the homosexual as much as any other person.
Cynthia Burack of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Policy Institute commented "Unlike the political arenas of the anti-gay movement that explain homosexuality as a choice, the ex-gay movement is grounded in a model of homosexual development that emphasizes the childhood origins of same-sex desire." Focus on the Family concurs with one position of the American Psychiatric Association when it states “some people believe that sexual orientation is innate and fixed; however, sexual orientation develops across a person’s lifetime,” though it disagrees with the Association's stance that "homosexuality is not a mental disorder".
Love Won Out states that "homosexuality is easier to keep out than remove once it is in place...protect your child." (Love Won Out Conference Guide, pg 22) In order to preserve our children from the "myths" that homosexuality is to be tolerated, "They offer practical tools in directing children toward a healthy heterosexual identity, and imparts insight into what parents can do to safeguard their children from those who would tell them otherwise." They state that they help people who want to understand better the many factors that can lead to someone's adopting a homosexual identity; and assist those who struggle with unwanted same-sex attractions and want to discover how they might also start upon the path to overcoming those desires. The Love Won Out conference does this by first explaining, "Homosexuality, at its root, is not a sexual problem - it is a gender-identity problem." (Love Won Out Conference Guide, Pg 12) They go on to claim, "there is no such thing as a homosexual; homosexuality is a Gender identity disorder." (Love Won Out Conference Guide, pg 12) "Gender identity determines sexual orientation, Boyhood effeminacy predicts adult homosexuality (75% correlation)." (Love Won Out Conference Guide, pg 31) According to their theory, homosexuality in males is caused by a triangular structure of either; “a over emotionally involved, dominant mother with a quiet, withdrawn, non expressive and/or hostile father, and a temperamentally shy, timid, introverted, artistic, imaginative son." They go on to say often there is poor communication between the mother and the father with the son's having a special relationship with the mother and a guarded, ill-at-ease, antagonistic relationship with the father. (Love Won Out Conference Guide, pg 12-13) Love Won Out outlines proactive steps of intervention, affirming, clear, consistent gender message, "you are a boy. It's good to be a boy" and corrections, "Gentle disapproval, Teach him what's good about being a boy." (Love Won Out Conference Guide, pg 31)
Focus on the Family is in affiliation with Exodus International. Exodus International is one of the major groups in the ex-gay movement. Exodus-affiliated ministries provide support for persons with homosexual desires by giving them what they call is"freedom from homosexuality" which can include abstinence,"lessening of homosexual temptations, strengthening their sense of masculine or feminine identity, correcting distorted styles of relating with members of the same and opposite gender." Exodus International's position is not that reorientation of same-sex attraction is necessary but that it is possible; they do not conduct clinical treatment but believe reparative therapy can be beneficial. Love Won Out maintains, "The sin of homosexual behavior, like all sins, can be forgiven and healed by the grace revealed in the life and death of Christ. All sexual sin affects the human personality like no other sin, for sexual issues run deep into our character, and change is slow and uphill-but is possible nonetheless." (Love Won Out Conference Guide, pg 7) Exodus International aims to facilitate change in accordance with Focus on the Family's Love Won Out.
Mike Haley speaks in the Love Won Out conference and is chairman of the board of Exodus International."Having been involved in the homosexual community as a teen and young adult, Mike offers tremendous insight into the causes and recovery of the homosexual condition. He has a degree in education and is pursuing a master's degree in counseling. Mike is the director of gender issues for Focus on the Family's Public Policy division and helped develop the Love Won Out conference. He also serves as chairman of the board of Exodus International." (Love Won Out Conference Guide, pg 9)
Focus on the Family also works with Genesis Counseling: "Reclaiming Godly Sexuality." Genesis Counseling is headed by Joe Dallas who claims the Genesis view of sexuality is "the sexual union between man and wife." Joe Dallas attacks "pro gay theology."
Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, on November 4, 2006, represented NARTH at the Love Won Out Conference speaking on "Prevention of Male Homosexuality" and on "The Condition of Male Homosexuality". "Dr. Nicolosi is the president and principal research investigator for the National Association of Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH)" Dr. Nicolosi is the clinical director of the Thomas Aquinas Psychological Clinic in Encino, Calif., where he specializes in the treatment of men with unwanted homosexuality. (Love Won Out Conference Guide, pg 9).
It teaches what it believes the goal of the gay agenda is "Normalization through desensitization, Undermining parental moral authority, and equating homosexuality to heterosexuality." (Love Won Out Conference Guide, pg 19) Love Won Out also works to equip parents to protest gay tolerance in our schools.
Love Won Out states that "marriage will continue to be 'redefined.'" It believes that Same-Sex Marriage may mean for our society: "possible threats to freedom of speech and religious liberty." (Love Won Out Conference Guide, pg 37) The conference makes a point to "effectively argue for the benefits of traditional marriage to their friends, co-workers and legislators," and says that gay marriage is not in the best interest of our families and children. The organization states that same-sex marriage places adult desires above the best interest of our children, "same-sex marriage intentionally creates motherless or fatherless families." (Love Won Out Conference Guide, pg 37)
Protesters continue to follow the controversial conference in large numbers at each of its stops around the country. They often carrying signs claiming \"God loves everyone, even the homosexual,\" \"love is love,\" and \"gay the way God made me. James Dobson responded \"Gay activists come with pre-conceived notions about who we are and what we believe and about the hate that boils from within, which is simply not true. Regardless of what the media might say, Focus on the Family has no interest in promoting hatred toward homosexuals or anyone else. We also don't wish to deprive them of their basic constitutional rights. The Constitution applies to all of us.
Not all gays feel the same way. When Love Won Out went to Palm Springs, a city known for its gay and lesbian community, it received an official welcome letter from its mayor, Ron Oden, and the city sent ambassadors to attend the event.