According to her neighbours, Abeer spent most of her days at home as her parents would not allow her to go to school following security concerns. The American soldiers would often watch Abeer from their checkpoint, doing her chores and tending the garden. The neighbours had warned Abeer's father of this but he replied it was not a problem as she was just a small girl.
Abeer's brother Mohammed (who survived along with his younger brother, due to being at school at the time of the killings) recalls the soldiers often searched the house. And on one such occasion PFC Steven Dale Green ran his index finger down Abeer's cheek, which had terrified the 14 year old girl.
Abeer's mother told her relatives before the murders, that whenever she caught the soldiers staring at Abeer, they would give her the thumbs-up sign, point to her daughter and say "Very good, very good." Evidently this had concerned her and she made plans for Abeer to spend night times sleeping at her uncle's (Ahmad Qassim) house.
On March 12, 2006 the soldiers (from the 502nd Infantry Regiment) at the checkpoint had been drinking alcohol and discussing plans to rape Abeer. In broad daylight they walked to the house (not wearing their uniforms) and separated Abeer from her family into 2 different rooms. Steven Green then murdered her parents and younger sister, while 2 other soldiers raped her. He then emerged from the room saying "I just killed them, all are dead". He then raped Abeer, shot her in the head and preceded to (along with the other soldiers) set fire to the house and bodies.
The neighbours were amongst the first to discover the scene, one recounts "The poor girl, she was so beautiful she lay there, one leg was stretched and the other was bended and her dress was lifted to her neck.